Its Time

Oh so Plush!!

Plush Pinks

#PricelessPics

This little puppy just makes my heart melt. I think I want a puppy :-(

She (My inspiration)

So there is this lady right.... And her parents decided to call her Khanyi Dlomo right... And for as far back as I can remember she has always inspired me. She is the most beautiful woman I know in South Africa (Looking at her through my bias eyes *sticks tongue out*)

She is a woman of calibre and her humble character exerts ellegance. I love how calm and placid she is about her life, yet very aggressive with her career. Her beauty and brains all shine at the same lengths and levels. She has been a journalist ever since 22 years of age, had kids at 23 and married at 24. Things didnt go so well on her first marriage, then she separated with her husband. But instead of just moping around, she decided to use her freedom to go study over seas. came back with a killer idea of starting Ndalo Media and launching a Magazine of a kind that did not exist in our country. From its inception, Its been a success and still growing from strength to strength. Destiny Mag came into being and we all loved and welcomed it.
What I love about her is that she takes herself seriously and knows her worth, regardless of who says what.

I also am moved by how she stays out of the press and keeps her private life private. Nothing makes me more happy like somene who is known for their work and not for Fame's-Sake. She has now since married a hot guy from Ghana who is also a powerful business man in his own right. And I believe they will live hapily ever after... lol
Check out this woman in these pics :-)
Gessh Khanyi I am coming for you dear. Zoe Maphala is next!

I laughed so hard when I saw this... so so so so hard.

#Classic

Boy did I laugh.

Me and my Hubby will be #TeamSwag

Discovered a boutique that caters for me and my future hubby #TeamSwag (lol)the only problem for now, is that it sin Paris.
(Do note , I said temporary problem). This ravishing Boutique is called The Kooples and has a magazine that show cases some of the clothing they have. Please enjoy this with me...

#PicelessPics

Ananda Project feat Heather Johnson - kiss kiss kiss

Clear Skin

After 5 months of a rigourous skin treatment prescibed to me by my dermatologist, I finally took a good look at myself yesterday and took a pic of my new skin.

The treatment is called Oratane. If you have bad skin and it really fustrates you, go ask your Dermatologist.
Now I am not-so-patiently waiting to get my complexion back, because on the treatment the skin goes thin and becomes sensitive to any sunlight. In turn that will darken your skin immediately.

My virtue: 'I must always feel good in my skin. Unlike clothing, this is one thing I can't change' -King Zoe

Need a pick me up

Feeling a bit down today. Need to just be... and maybe a hug-nyana

#PricelessPics

August 11

Sometimes you have to forget what you feel and remember what you deserve.

Ryan Gosling

Dear Future Hubby

You will look up to this man for the standard of dress-code, if you have no dress sense at all.
Just like him, you will lose weight if you are a bit plump just to maintain being suave at all times.

All my love in #SWAG
Your wifey
Zoe

Cheetah

My favourite animal of all time. I am so glad I found this picture.

Letting go and giving up is not the same thing.
Dare I say, when you give up, i'ts when you have convinced yourself that the obstacle has defeated you.
When you let go, its when you tell yourself, this is not worth the fight
And regardless of what you put in, the outcome is undesirable - Zoe Maphala

Dress-C

Woah, so it happens Im dressed like this today, but my ittire is black....

YOLO

THE WORK YOU DO
WHILE YOU PROCRASTINATE
IS PROBABLY THE WORK YOU SHOULD BE DOING
FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.

HOME

George Carlin

I had the pleasure of coming across this message by George Carlin. It touched me so much that I thought I should share it. There are some things that are so succinctly put ,and so beautifully written that you really wish you had written them yourself. I didn't write this myself, so I did the next best thing.

The Paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider freeways, but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgement, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.

We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom. We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love seldom, and hate too often.

We have learned how to make a living, but not a life. We've added years to life not life to years. We've been all the way to the moon and back, but we have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbour. We conquered outter space but not inner space. We've done larger things, but not better things.

We've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We've conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We've learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less

Remember to say, 'I love you' to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.

Psalms 32:1-5 (its 3am and my cries wake me again)

The LORD rescued me with this verse. I feel like my heart can't take this anymore. I thought I could be strong with the matters of my heart. I'm not and so the pain keeps me awake and I try to silence it, but its not working. I need someone to be strong for me too :-(. Yet again there is none but the Lord... It reads thus... When I kept silent, my bones wasted away through my groaning all day long. For day and night your hand was heavy upon me; my strength was sapped as in the heat of summer. Then I acknowledged my sin to you and did not cover up my inequity. I said, "I will confess my transgression to the LORD- and you forgave the guilt of my sin.

I have a shoe fetish if you did not know. And this is only apparent to people who see me and see all the kind of shoes I wear. I am not afraid to experiment or go wild with them. Yet i always hav a policy of keeping things classy, simple yet elegant and noticeable. Shoes are my best buys, I always look forward to shopping for shoes. Heels is particular catch my eye, because of the frame they give to your body. A lot of people think I like heels because I am short- let me just set the record straight, I love my height, its one of those things I cant do anything about and I am glad there can be nothing done. I am so comfortable with my height that it even is better to walk around in heels, i dont become rediculously tall. *every tall person needs a tall one* and i mention that because I love tall, dark guys. Anyways clothes, on the other hand are a mission for me. I really dont believe I am a fashionista (though I have to asmit I have a sense of style). Unlike other women, it is a norm to find the perfect clothing, then dress it up and find a shoe to compliment the attire. I, am particularly different. I buy the shoe first, then decide what clothing item will compliment the shoe. To the point whereby I will wear simple dark clothing just so the shoe is visible (Like my friends would mimick me: " So my shoe is not Drowned" lol) When I dream of my big house in the near future, with my husband and I and our Twin-Walk-In-Closet, I only see my shoes lined up. I will put them in a spectrum of colours such as the rainbow and just marvel. Yesterday my coleague told me about his client who has 2,3mil worth of a pen collection. Wow, like 2,3 mil.[Pause, let it simmer] *thinkimg hard* I wouldnt mind that... Anyways, just sharing my love for shoes and how they are priority when it comes to my look

::::::::::Oh how I love these shorts:::::::::

Oh and not just any rose, but a black rose.

What we shared was as sweet and as endearing as a forehead kiss. It was what I wanted. it was what I needed. He was a gentleman, and a friend. And I’ll always love him for that.

Smash into You

Head down As I watch my feet take turns Hitting the ground I Charged I find myself in love And racing the earth And I'm soaked in your love And love was right in my path In my grasp And me And you Belong I wanna run And smash into you Ears closed What I hear no one else has to know Because I know What we have is worth first place in gold I wanna run, smash into you I'm willing to run I'm ready to run

Crown Royal on Ice

Your hands on my hips
Pull me right back to you
I catch that thrust
Give it right back to you
You're in so deep
I'm breathin' for you
You grab my braids
Arch my back high for you
Your diesel engine
I'm squirting mad oil on
Down on the floor
Til my speakers start to boil
I flip shit
Quick slip
Hip dip
And I'm twisted
In your hands and your lips
And your tongue tricks
And you're so thick
And you're so big
And you're so Crown Royal on ice
Crown Royal on ice

I am starting (with or without you) LOL (love this poem)

You say life has been hard on you
Well brother I got news- its hard on me too
We seem to face the same old issues
Some on the surface
Some deeper in our tissues

And I know slavery has played its part- word
Word being separated and subjugated
And that passes to the brain of our child
So I want to step off with words
And start with the right now

You say the world just doesn’t understand
But I am not the world my love
I am your woman

And I know how deep it really goes
Trying to tread on the dream when the water feels low
And oh, if our ancestors can walk
Walk barefoot and afraid in the dark
For miles and miles and miles and miles and miles and miles
I know we can do this.
Come on lets start!


[Pic: Mzu (YoungNation Photography)]

The Love that Perfects Us

When we say we love someone, what we SHOULD mean is that we are going to honour them by serving them. We are going to take them and their needs into consideration. We are going to cover a multitude of their sins.

Chinese Bob

So I tried the chinese bob- hope the chinese are not angry with me. *smiles and waves*

I am In[side]love

So these past couple of days I was feeling very romantic and lovey dovey. Mind you- it was by myself. Im at a phase where I wish I was In(side)love. At this moment I just want to be told I am loved, kissed on the cheek, held by my hand, my hair played with. But not just that- I want to be fulfilled. Have a "somebody" who makes me a better person, who piques my mind and elevates me as a woman. Someone who inspires me. like Jill Scott says, "I just wanna be loved"
So when I decided I was going to review my prayer to God again to grant me a companion who will make me feel this way- it came in the form of a poem. I needed to make sure I, myself understand first what I want in order to convey it to God. he honesty of this poem though, scared me. I literally wrote it under two minutes because it seems I am ready and I know exactly what i want. So here you go...
(This is me talking about my compaion whom I have already [FAITH])



I go to sleep and he was the last thing on my mind
The concluding full stop on my text
The last word from my lips

As I got comfy on my bed
Waiting for sleep to rescue me from him-
It so happened he brought sleep to my body
He was my dream that occupied me the whole night
He was the words I was sleep-talking
He was the voice I heard when sleep walking
The same voice that guided me safely back to bed

So when I woke up the next day, he was the voice that rang in my ear
While trying to adjust my blurry vision, he was the first face I saw
He is the reason I wake up daily
He is the reason I get dressed and look good

He is the makeup on my face,
The lip gloss he will taste
He is the hand cream he will touch on my hands
He is the deodorant he will hug and embrace
He is the time he spends with me
He is the joy he will receive from me
He is the love he will experience from me
He is the care he so needs from me
He is the companion he will share with me
He is the Truth he will get from me
He is the destiny he will share with me.

He is that which I need him to be and that which he needs from me
All he wants from me is there, because he is the embodiment of IT
Love inexplicable- Love made perfect

Never Too Much

I can’t fool myself I don’t want nobody else to ever love me
You are my shining star, my guide in life, my love fantasy
There’s not a minute, hour or day in life that I don’t love you
You’re at the top of my list so I am always thinking of you

I still remember in the days when I was scared to touch you
How I spend my day dreaming, planning how to say I love you
You must’ve known that I had feelings deep enough to swim in
That’s when you opened up your heart and told me to come in

Woke up today looked at your picture just to get me started
I called you up but you weren’t there and I was broken hearted
Hung up the phone can’t be too late the boss is so demanding
Opened the door up into my surprise there you were standing

Who needs to go to work to hussle for another dollar?
I’d rather be with you coz you make my heart scream and halla
Love is a gamble and I’m so glad that we’re winning
We’ve come a long way, yet this is only the beginning

PENCIL
I'm sorry

ERASER
For what? You didn't do anything wrong.

PENCIL
I'm sorry because you get hurt because of me. Whenever I made a mistake, you're always there to erase it. But as you make my mistakes vanish, you lose a part of yourself. You get smaller and smaller each time.

ERASER
That's true. But I don't really mind. You see, I was made to do this. I was made to help you whenever you do something wrong. Even though one day, I know I'll be gone and you'll replace me with a new one, I'm actually happy with my job. So please, stop worrying. I hate seeing you sad.

How I feel today... (^^,) if only

5th of May.
5 months I've known you.
5 lines.
5 decisions to make.
5 ways to tell you I love you.


-Zoe 2011

Darkie tendencies (Does darkie even know what awkward moments are)?

LOL... I open up this story with a laugh because its exactly that- funny

So here I am yesterday, I didn’t go to work because I wasn't feeling too well. But as the morning progressed I was finding it particularly boring being at home, cooped up. What even pushed me further to leave the house was because there was load-shedding in my area (so I thought by night time it turned out only our house didn’t have electricity because of the rats eating the cables. But in any case, that’s a story for another day.

So I decided to go to Westgate to catch a movie, buy a memory-stick to back up my volumes of music on the laptop, and just have a King Steer Burger- which I have been craving for days! (Yum!) There are two Steers franchise inside the mall, so I decided to go to the one further from the entrance, because for the first time I didn’t want to take a burger at home only to microwave it. Plus who knows if the electricity would be back on when I got home. But the most prevalent reason was, because I just wanted to hang with myself.
Most people are afraid to hang out alone in public places and I decided years ago that I would be that girl who normalises being a lone ranger. Now apart from being hit on all the time by men who think I am alone by circumstance, I felt liberated that there was no need to be with someone at that point in time. But any ways let me not delve into that, that point will make an awesome blog on its own.

So here I am I order my single King Steer Burger, without chips (Because those chips are so delicious, they are gonna cause me to have a low self esteem)and without a drink (yesterday was too cold for a drink, even if it’s a room temperature).
The less-interested lady at the till asks me in a rehearsed voice, "Take away or are you sitting ma'am?" With pride in my voice and a smile on my face I say, "Sitting, thanks"
She hands me that cold, metal ornament with the number 3 to place on my table, then I went on my way to go find a seat. I looked around the tables and there were only black people sitting there. but there were few people there, so my variety of seat was more than enough. So in my head I thought, let me try get a table that seats 2 people, so should a big family come I won’t feel selfish by occupying the whole table by myself. plus the second thing I had to consider before taking a seat was to face the opposite direction of where everyone passes, so that I won’t get hit on by some stud trying to save a lonely girl in distress.*Yawn*

So I find my two seater table and in a matter of seconds my Burger arrives. Excitement fills me as I am about to hold my burger in my hands and devour it. But then, just before the burger arrives, some lady approaches my table and pulls out the chair directly opposite me. She was a plump young lady, she looked 30, her hair was neither combed nor relaxed. She wore a navy blue jacket and was wearing a long skirt that deprived her of body definition. She looked rather warm, yet confused in her face. As she was pulling out the chair, she asked in Sotho, "A odotsi lebatho?" (meaning: direct translation- singakhathala yileslungu maan): "Are you sitting with people?" With a bit of confusion in my face I said no... and starred at her to justify why she would ask a total stranger that. At first I thought she wanted money, donations and everything else that they creative minds can extort from us. So I got ready to reach down my purse to give at least give her R5.00. But she just sat on the chair with a since-you-are-by-yourself-its-ok-to-chill-with-you look!

By that time, I am befuddled and a bit of "WTF" and I m looking at her thinking, "Really? You wanna be that girl right now?" Then I make my expressions stronger on the face, to try and show her that what she is doing is not appropriate, I don’t know her and that I didn’t come here to chill with her. Just when I thought men were a challenge when you out alone. She stared back at me with eyes of... This-is-a-perfect-spot-this-chick-has-chosen-for-us.

At that moment I realised that this lady sees nothing wrong with what she doing. So I immediately took my bag and metal ornament to another table far from her. When I got to my new table, I looked back at her, just to see what was going on in her head now that I have moved- she still had the same expression on her face, so there I was I burst out laughing.

Have I ever?
At that point I realised that its either I am too western and it has killed our inter-relational skills, or that girl is down-right rural... That was such an awkward experience... LOL (I am still laughing) Here I am reading a book on how to better network and how to make a great opening line when approaching people you don’t know at a public event. Then here comes this humble lady and her opening line is, "A odotsi lebatho?" ((((((Drops The Mic))))))

All in all, that lady is my hero and I love being black.

Somebody almost walked off with all of my stuff

Somebody almost walked off with all of my stuff.
And didn't care enough to send a note home saying,
'I was late for my solo conversation or two sizes too small for my own tacky skirts.'

What can anybody do with something of no value on an open market?
Did you get a dime for my things?
“Hey man, where are you going with all of my stuff?
This is a woman's trip and I need my stuff to oooh and aaaah about.”

Honest to God, somebody almost ran off with all of my stuff.
And I didn't bring anything except the kick and sway of it.
The perfect ass for my man and none of it is theirs.
“This is mine, Zoe's own things- that's my name.
Now give me my stuff!”

I see you hiding my laugh and how I sit with my legs opened sometimes to give my crotch some sunlight.
This is some delicate leg and whimsical kiss,
I've got to have to give you my choice, so you can't have me unless I give me away.
And I was doing all that till you ran off on a good thing.
And who is this you left me with?
Some simple bitch with a bad attitude
“I want my things!”

I want my arm with a hot iron scar
I want my leg, with a flee bite
Yeah, I want my things
I want my calloused feet and quick language back in my mouth.
I want my own things, how I love them

Somebody almost ran with all of my stuff
And I was standing there looking at myself the whole time.
It wasn't a spirit that ran off with my stuff.
It was a man whose ego walked around like road ants shadow
It was a man faster than my innocence
It was a lover, I made too much room for
Almost ran off with all of my stuff

And the one running with it- don't know he's got it.
I'm shouting 'this is mine' and he doesn't even know he's got it.
My stuff is the anonymous-ripped off treasure of the year.
Did you know somebody almost got away with me?
Me?
In a plastic bag under his arm! Me! Zoe Maphala.
Somebody almost walked off with all my stuff


-it took me 6months to let 5years go. Im doing well.

Im both in and out

Have you ever been in a rut?

Been in a spot that makes you both and equally laugh and cry? A place where you love and hate the circumstance? A place that leaves you in the dark yet you have access to light? It didn’t help that the gentleman I was with gave me butterflies that fluttered in my stomach to last me a life time.
Well that is definitely where I have been in some days of my life. I was in a place where I am joyous and sad- at the same time. A place where I couldn’t decide whether I wanted to or not. It got so bad that even though on the outside I was cool as a cucumber, my ulcers showed me flames- literally. They exposed the war between my heart and my mind. Even in the exhibition of turmaoil, the lines in between weren’t read.

Let’s just say I took all my power and gave it to my heart and said, “Where you lead I will follow” and that’s exactly what I did... or did I?

- 27 Feb 2011

Her 3D

Let me tell you something about her
There is nobody else around like her
Every time you spend some time with her
You won’t be thinking about no other her

Everything you need and want is her
She reminds you of exactly why you with her
Problems are so minimal with her
I think you in love with her

Because nothing in this world will ever make you feel like you do
You with her and everything is so real
And you don’t care who has got anything to say
About what you do when you with her
Because that don’t matter because that’s YOUR GIRL

There is nobody who understand like her
You just have to be that man for her
See because you’ll be trying to share your life with her
And be the one who does those special things for her

You can take a long walk with her
Watch TV or just sit and talk with her
See you will want to make good love to her
Because YOU WILL JUST KNOW that "she MUST be my ‘SOUL SISTAH’"

My sleep thieve of a poem

Life needn't be more complicated than it is.
We don’t need more drama than we have...
Coz Personally I am being disturbed by this mosquito
While trying to think about you, So u are my last thought before I fall asleep.

Can we be each other's haven?
Can you just love me the way only you know how?
I will be fine with that, knowing it’s genuine and free-flowing, that will be fulfilling.

Can you be nobody else, but you?
Can you not expect me to be wearing masks?
Can I prove and make you trust me more?
Can I kill all your fears?
Yes physically murder each and every one?
So our burdens collectively become light!

Can we hold hands and dance in the midst of it all?
Can I just love you without reservations?
Can I teach you how to trust me?
Can you teach me how to love you?

Can we not break each other?
Rather, can I be the reason you made it into heaven?

- Zoe Kunoichi Maphala (Souldier of Love)00.00am , 25 Jan '11

"TWENTYSOMETHINGS" WE ARE... GOSH

Being Twenty-something - they call it the "Quarter-life Crisis".

It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that
there are many things about yourself that you didn't know and may not
like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or
two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now. You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones.

What you don't recognize is that they are realizing that too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you.

You look at your job ... and it is not even close to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you. Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn't. One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure.

You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone
and scared and confused.

Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward. You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better.

Or maybe you love someone but they love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you know that you aren't a bad person. Or someone loves you- LOL,but you ar inlove with someone else, but you dont want to let both of them go, because the one loves you how you want the other too... LOL ya, neh!

Getting wasted and acting like an idiot doesn't seem as fun. You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision.

You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for
yourself... and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to
be a contender! What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we
can to figure this whole thing out.

"Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the
moments that take our breath away."
It's really amazing when two strangers become the best of friends, but
it is really sad when the best of friends become two strangers.

Love from another twenty-something!

Here is what love can do:

Steal time and hold memories against you:

love is alive.