A 24 year old and marriage

I just smiled before I wrote this note... ok let me be honest, I giggled a bit. I giggled at the thought of how I am letting in the reader into the corners of my not-so-stable mind.

Firstly I look around and notice my peers and ladies slightly older on how they all get excited for marriage. Now dont get me wrong, that's well and good, but what frightens me is how they view the concept of marriage. I am not saying there is something wrong with how they think, its just that they get me freaked out on how differently I think.

I am sure we all heard how little girls dream of their wedding when growing up. How they picture the dress, the man of their dreams and co-hibiting together. Sorry to burst the bubble for all my sisters, but I didnt share the same sentiment. I didn't picture a hubby or a picket fence or children. I only went as far as my own house and a dog... maybe I saw a manly figure hovering around in the backround... but that's as far as I went.

Even now, I still am not faffing around the idea.

Now that you got me all wrong- I WOULD LIKE TO TAKE THE OPPORTUNITY TO TELL YOU WHERE I STAND.

I see myself married, I see myself with kids and I see myself with a husband. But I dont see it as a goal, or an achievement that has to be reached. I dont work towards mariage, becase I believe I will work at marriage when I am in it. I see alot of gentleman and ladies who plan their lives like its a car that they have to acquire befor 21yers, or a house that they want to by by 28, or a Job position that they need to be in by 30. I believe the day you start taking marriage in that light, you will either marry someone you dont love, or grab anything that is willing to resemble a wife/husband. And we all know where all of that will lead to...

I believe marriage a standard. No man is an island, is what God said. So we are bounf to be married. Instead of waisting time preparing for something you have no control over- rather focus on you. Yes, I did not stutter! As a single, you need to work on your character, personality, morals and principles. There is nothing as worse as two completely strange and unstable people trying to get to know each other and figure out each other, when they dont even know individually who they are themselves. That will result in chaos and in divorse. What happened to waiting for God to show you your wife and to fulfill your needs at the appointed time that He feels it will be good for you?